Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
I Corinthians 13:4
Of all the definitions of Love, this is what I find the most exact. Many can define what love is based on how they feel at the moment. Most people can only define love if they are happy. Most of us speak of love when we are happy, when we are not challenged, when we are overwhelmed. People inlove can have the most beautiful smile hanging on their lips, daydreaming and looking forward to spend a lifetime with the person they love. But no one has been brave enough to see thru the future for possibilities that one day this "love", no matter how sweet it is, how peaceful and calm the situation is, it will pass by. So what happens when love is gone.
They say hate is the opposite of love. It is human nature to feel hate when something he never expects came to mess up with the happiness and fulfillment he fills. It is human nature to feel disappointed and frustrated. Well of course everybody wants to be loved and adored, so when rejection comes, there goes your dreams and emotions breaking apart. Tearing one apart. Because that is not what you wanted. Humans get upset when they don't get what they want. Love is the life of one's spirit. Like a home inside an individual. Just like a real home, there are things outside that would attempt to destroy it. Just like a real home, it can be torn down. So what happens when love is gone?
People would usually cry upon loss of someone they love, loss of something, loss of anything they value the most. They grieve. And humans have the tendency to defend themselves when they are at the point of being oppressed. Some breakdown, some cry, some feel hate and is hungry for revenge. Because they want to overcome the bitterness they feel inside, because they feel that they don't deserve to be treated that way. Ego is taking in charge of the situation. You begin to lose yourself worth. You are devastated. And rejected. Hate grows as much as you feel bad about what happened. You'd have the same amount of hate as much as the affection you felt for that person. But hate has never been the opposite of love. As hate is there because you still care, but it's just that you can't do anything and you have no choice but to be mad. Because you can't do anything to change what have happened, you can't stop someone from leaving, you can't change his heart, you can't make see what you feel, how broken you are. So what happens when love is gone?
When hate finally roots and grows in your heart, it will consume every affection that you have towards someone. You'd want to make that person feel how miserable you are feeling. You'd want that person to shoulder most part of the pain you are feeling. You will say words which you don't mean because you are not thinking right, because you are mad. You will do things out of despair just to give yourself enough air inside you to breathe freely because you are getting exhausted by depression, loneliness, disappointment and frustration. You'd feel that things are unfair. You'd even ask why that person can't feel any sympathy towards you, why does he not care to comfort you as you go through that hard time. You'd ask why he can afford to stand there and watch you fall apart.
These things won't break someone's heart. What breaks your heart is the fact that things aren't the same anymore and you're not getting what you want anymore. But there is something more than heart break, worse than being broken hearted. When you've felt too much rejected. When you lost your self-worth. By the time you are walking with no clear direction of where to go. When you lie down and not knowing that tears falling down from your eyes and running through your cheeks. When you could hear your heart beating slow yet strong. When you feel your blood is running low. When you're physically weak and could hardly stand up and all you just wanted is to lie, fall asleep and never wake up 'cause you know that you'll feel the same if you wake up again. When your mind is empty. When you are empty. That's when someone become empty. That's when someone becomes "broken". When someone becomes broken, his spirit dies. His will is gone. His love of his own life is gone. That wanting to live is gone. He is like a broken glass, shattered, and just looking at his shattered pieces and can't do anything about it. Helpless. Hopeless. Lifeless.
Because the person he loves despises him. No matter how he cries out his name. Calling him to rescue and save him from breaking down. This person would even say words to give more pain to the hurting one. He would feel pleasure over the pain of the other. He wouldn't care. He wouldn't look. He would live a life as if nothing happened. Because love is gone. He has noting now but "Apathy". The exact opposite of love. Define love and think of its opposite, then that's apathy. The having of no feelings at all. Neither hate nor love. Nor grieve nor mercy. Numb.
What can one do when love is gone? Neither do I know. Neither I had the strength to pick myself up when it happens. I can only tell what happens when love is gone. But I can never tell what to do. It's a battle that each person must learn to win. A puzzle each person must figure out ways to solve.
Perhaps what can fix a broken man, is a will to live. Love. As love goes with hope, perhaps someone who can show him love will give him hope and strength to live another life. A new life. Guess it's right when they say "truth will set you free". Rather tell someone you don't love him anymore, for him to know where to start. He will start from that moment that he knows you don't love him anymore. You already have hurt that person, atleast don't deprive him his right to begin a new life without you. If you still love that person, then say it. So both of you can have a fresh start. Not to patch things up but start as new lovers on a brand new love story.
